Be Logical

The Goals and Objectives of the IEP for Home were written in a logical order. This page will show you why.

If you understand the logic of the IEP for Home, you can be strategic. If you are strategic, you can make the IEP for Home work for you. Here are examples of the logic of the IEP for Home.

Good teaching and successful learning occur when the relationship is positive. When you and your child are feeling frustrated with each other, good teaching and successful learning are not going to happen. First, engage your child in some positive activities. Later, this will make it easier to do the hard work of teaching. When the relationship is positive, you can engage your child in learning. See the following content page: Positive Relationships
Build wellness. If you and your child don’t feel well, it’s harder to teach and learn. Make sure that you and your child are well-rested, well-fed, and are feeling energized and motivated. See the following Content Pages: Sleeping, Eating, and Movement.
Privileges first; Routines and Rules second. First, set up fun activities (privileges). The Content Pages dedicated to Schedules and Rules are harder to teach if your child does not know when fun stuff will happen. Have a positive relationship, build wellness, and schedule some fun activities before you start teaching about the Schedule of routines and about Rules. See Schedules and Rules
Friendships and Homework. Teach about friendships and homework after you have established a positive relationship with your child, after you have built up some wellness, and after your child is able to follow a schedule and respect rules. Why? Because friendships depend upon these earlier skills. Your child needs to have a positive relationship with you, be well rested, feel motivated and energized, enjoy fun activities- Then, they’ll be ready for friendships. The Content Pages on Schedules and Rules are important for building friendships. They are also important for helping your child with homework. See the following Content Pages: Friendships and Homework
Find your own path. Even though it’s logical to follow the order outlined above, parents and their children always find their own path. It can be mysterious why some parents start at one point, and other parents start at another point. Here’s a way for you to find your own path:
- Notice your successes. Build up on what’s already successful.
- Go easy on yourself. Don’t start with the goal or the objective that’s especially hard for you. Start with something that’s easy.
- Get inspired. Start with a goal that’s inspiring to you. It might not be positive relationships. It could be one of the other goals. Choose your goal. Later on, you can go back and work on the goals that you did not start with.
- Start slow. For any goal, start with just the first objective. Learn it really well and make sure your child understands it. Once you have experienced success, move up to the next objective.
- Use a suggestion from the Author: Look at the Jump Starters page. The jump starters are usually quick to get through. They can help you experience success quickly.